Because Baby E. is in the early intervention program, he’s eligible for respite care from the state. If you don’t know what that is, here’s an example from South Dakota:
“Respite care is temporary relief care designed for families of children or adults with special needs. Respite care can range from a few hours of care provided on a one-time basis to overnight or extended care sessions. Respite care can be utilized on a regular or irregular basis and can be provided by family members, friends, skilled care providers or professionals.”
There’s more, but what it really is for people with kids who have special needs. Baby E. isn’t so bad, I thought — he doesn’t have any medications at the moment, he’s smiley, he doesn’t have a feeding tube. He’ll be really easy for someone to babysit a couple hours a week, while I write or go to work or nap and while A. works on his research projects. So we met with an awesome local provider and we did a two-hour session on the weekend.
Baby E. cried for approximately half of it. He was fed, he was dry, he was played with, he was sung to, he was comforted. The respite carer is a calm and soothing person — and still had to hold him the entire time. The same thing happened when A.’s mom babysat for us.
This is why he’s so damn exhausting. He can’t be put down, not even for naps. He needs bouncing, rocking, patting, still. He’s a velcro baby with a capital VELCRO BABY. This is also why we’re worried about putting him in daycare. If he cried like this there, they’d probably kick him out. Yet I don’t see a way for him to become more resilient without adding additional caregivers to the mix.
Any tips, O Internet? It sounds awful, but I need more than two hours every weekend. Or am I overthinking and overreacting about this? Maybe in a couple of weeks he’ll warm up to the caregiver and won’t cry so much. That’s if she wants to come back. I would not blame her if she did not want to spend her weekend being cried at by the Ultimate Super Velcro Baby.